Deacon Bruce Maltzen's
Homily for December 28, 2008
Holy Family Sunday
(readings found here)
It’s Holy Family Sunday and Archbishop Nienstedt of the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis has asked all of us to preach on the sacredness and purpose of marriage. Actually, what he said was:
“I am grateful to our priests and deacons for their willingness to preach about the sacred purpose of marriage and family life on Sunday, Dec. 28. This law “written in our hearts” is what we refer to as the natural law. It is “natural” because, being perceived by human reason, it is our participation in the eternal law of God. While independent of revelation, it can be further illuminated by it.
There are different expressions of the moral law: eternal law, natural law, revealed law, ecclesiastical law and civil law. These last two, ecclesiastical and civil laws, are established by human reason and participate, to one extent or another, in the will of God for human happiness and fulfillment.
When addressing his epistle to the Romans, St. Paul acknowledged that while non-Jews do not have the benefit of the Mosaic (revealed) law, nevertheless, they do have a law “written in their hearts” (Romans 2:15). This law of our hearts guides the consciences of men and women in knowing right from wrong so that their actions, too, can be judged by God at the end of time.
Our understanding of marriage as a union between one man and one woman, ordered to the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of children, is known to us by the natural law. The complementarity of the sexes was determined by God in the beginning as an essential element of his wise, creative order. As the Second Vatican Council teaches, “The intimate community of life and love which constitutes the married state has been established by the Creator and endowed by Him with its own proper laws . . . . God himself is the author of marriage” (“Gaudium et Spes,” 48.1).Thus, marriage is not merely a human institution, subject to changing mores. The civil laws that society in its collective wisdom has established regarding marriage between one man and one woman are intended to protect and safeguard the cultural context for the growth, education and well-being of the children who are born from the marital union. Governments, in their duty to ensure the common good, ought to know that society has much at stake in fostering family life according to the natural order. Any government should be leery of altering such civil laws, especially on the basis of a misguided notion of inclusiveness. Marriage, as intended by God from the beginning, is the proven way of establishing society’s welfare. “
We in the Catholic Church understand that Marriage is a Sacrament. To understand that, we must first understand what is meant by "Sacrament". The Catechism states: Sacraments are outward signs of inward grace, instituted by Christ for our sanctification
According to the teaching of the Catholic Church, the sacraments are not mere signs; they do not merely signify Divine grace, but in virtue of their Divine institution, they cause that grace in the souls of men. -- a sign producing grace, is a good, succinct definition of a sacrament of the New Law. Sacrament, in its broadest acceptance, may be defined as an external sign of something sacred.
Back to the Sacrament of Marriage… In this Sacrament we should see reflections of something larger than ourselves. This is a Sacrament, that is a sign or touchstone or intervention into our normal everyday lives of God's presence with and in us. It is where God becomes one with us, and makes a covenant with us, a pledge to us, to promise to be with us in all things.
You see, Christ is a sacrament of God, that is He makes God the Father more visible , that is, He makes God's love for us visible and touchable. He is the sign of God, the Covenant with God. Marriage, then is a Sacrament of Christ, making Christ more visible, that is Christ's love more visible and touchable .
What a concept. To share the love that God shares. A gift that only can come from God. That is why this is a sacrament, to receive the Love shared between the Father and Son as John's Gospel states, " So that they may be one, as we are one…". That husband and wife can share that very same love. All it takes is belief, hearing and doing the Word of God. Can we believe Jesus? If you can, then what He says must be true, and therefore it is possible to share that love that Jesus talks about. We MUST become one in that same love so that we can reflect the Father's glory in His Son. So that in this unity, this oneness, we can become a beacon for the rest of the world. That husband and wife can become that light, that beacon of love for the rest of the family. Seeing this light, this Love, the rest of the family desires that light and love shared between husband and wife, shared with Jesus the Son who shares it with the Father in heaven. With this immense and unlimited love abiding in the couple, they should be able to surmount all the difficulties that may arise. They should be able to not only have love enough for their family, but should be able to extend that love beyond their family to the world that is so in need of love today.
And the world is definitely in need of all married couples to reflect God's love, example it to them. Today's culture does NOT support a sacramental marriage. Today's culture says "Live together and if it gets bad, just call it quits". Today's culture is about multiple lifestyle's and getting what's yours and looking out for myself. Today's culture is not supportive of sacrificial love, of giving oneself for another. Today's culture does not support the idea of spending your life in love for another.
Today's culture looks at marriage as a state recognized tax status, as an agreement to pool resources, as a security transaction to prevent loneliness, as a hedge against old age alone.
Marriage in the church is something far different from what the world thinks it is. You start marriage pledging that you will be "true to each other in good times and bad, in sickness and health, to love and honor each other for all the days of your lives." Marriage is more than consenting to live together and share your lives. It is a consenting to be a reflection of God's love. It is a consenting to be a beacon of God's light to a world which seems steeped in darkness.
In this Sacrament of love, a love shared between three (bride, groom and God) we proclaim God's love for us and God enters into this Covenant in the form of His Son. It is only in this way that this bringing together of two people can have life, life through and in Christ. Without him in this covenant, it is no longer a covenant but just an agreement, a license. But with him, Oh what love can be shared by two.
It is important to understand the marriage vows as the Church does
· Sacred
· Permanent
· Indissoluable (that cannot be dissolved, broken up, lasting, durable)
Love is not so much a decision as it is an encounter with another. In my life, I found that to be true. I did not have so much love that I knew or chose to give it to Pat, my wife of 31 years. When I encountered Pat, it sprang from somewhere within. It grew from a model of an encounter that had occurred in the past and was on-going. It grew from an encounter with an all-loving God.
Homily for December 28, 2008
Holy Family Sunday
(readings found here)
It’s Holy Family Sunday and Archbishop Nienstedt of the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis has asked all of us to preach on the sacredness and purpose of marriage. Actually, what he said was:
“I am grateful to our priests and deacons for their willingness to preach about the sacred purpose of marriage and family life on Sunday, Dec. 28. This law “written in our hearts” is what we refer to as the natural law. It is “natural” because, being perceived by human reason, it is our participation in the eternal law of God. While independent of revelation, it can be further illuminated by it.
There are different expressions of the moral law: eternal law, natural law, revealed law, ecclesiastical law and civil law. These last two, ecclesiastical and civil laws, are established by human reason and participate, to one extent or another, in the will of God for human happiness and fulfillment.
When addressing his epistle to the Romans, St. Paul acknowledged that while non-Jews do not have the benefit of the Mosaic (revealed) law, nevertheless, they do have a law “written in their hearts” (Romans 2:15). This law of our hearts guides the consciences of men and women in knowing right from wrong so that their actions, too, can be judged by God at the end of time.
Our understanding of marriage as a union between one man and one woman, ordered to the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of children, is known to us by the natural law. The complementarity of the sexes was determined by God in the beginning as an essential element of his wise, creative order. As the Second Vatican Council teaches, “The intimate community of life and love which constitutes the married state has been established by the Creator and endowed by Him with its own proper laws . . . . God himself is the author of marriage” (“Gaudium et Spes,” 48.1).Thus, marriage is not merely a human institution, subject to changing mores. The civil laws that society in its collective wisdom has established regarding marriage between one man and one woman are intended to protect and safeguard the cultural context for the growth, education and well-being of the children who are born from the marital union. Governments, in their duty to ensure the common good, ought to know that society has much at stake in fostering family life according to the natural order. Any government should be leery of altering such civil laws, especially on the basis of a misguided notion of inclusiveness. Marriage, as intended by God from the beginning, is the proven way of establishing society’s welfare. “
We in the Catholic Church understand that Marriage is a Sacrament. To understand that, we must first understand what is meant by "Sacrament". The Catechism states: Sacraments are outward signs of inward grace, instituted by Christ for our sanctification
According to the teaching of the Catholic Church, the sacraments are not mere signs; they do not merely signify Divine grace, but in virtue of their Divine institution, they cause that grace in the souls of men. -- a sign producing grace, is a good, succinct definition of a sacrament of the New Law. Sacrament, in its broadest acceptance, may be defined as an external sign of something sacred.
Back to the Sacrament of Marriage… In this Sacrament we should see reflections of something larger than ourselves. This is a Sacrament, that is a sign or touchstone or intervention into our normal everyday lives of God's presence with and in us. It is where God becomes one with us, and makes a covenant with us, a pledge to us, to promise to be with us in all things.
You see, Christ is a sacrament of God, that is He makes God the Father more visible , that is, He makes God's love for us visible and touchable. He is the sign of God, the Covenant with God. Marriage, then is a Sacrament of Christ, making Christ more visible, that is Christ's love more visible and touchable .
What a concept. To share the love that God shares. A gift that only can come from God. That is why this is a sacrament, to receive the Love shared between the Father and Son as John's Gospel states, " So that they may be one, as we are one…". That husband and wife can share that very same love. All it takes is belief, hearing and doing the Word of God. Can we believe Jesus? If you can, then what He says must be true, and therefore it is possible to share that love that Jesus talks about. We MUST become one in that same love so that we can reflect the Father's glory in His Son. So that in this unity, this oneness, we can become a beacon for the rest of the world. That husband and wife can become that light, that beacon of love for the rest of the family. Seeing this light, this Love, the rest of the family desires that light and love shared between husband and wife, shared with Jesus the Son who shares it with the Father in heaven. With this immense and unlimited love abiding in the couple, they should be able to surmount all the difficulties that may arise. They should be able to not only have love enough for their family, but should be able to extend that love beyond their family to the world that is so in need of love today.
And the world is definitely in need of all married couples to reflect God's love, example it to them. Today's culture does NOT support a sacramental marriage. Today's culture says "Live together and if it gets bad, just call it quits". Today's culture is about multiple lifestyle's and getting what's yours and looking out for myself. Today's culture is not supportive of sacrificial love, of giving oneself for another. Today's culture does not support the idea of spending your life in love for another.
Today's culture looks at marriage as a state recognized tax status, as an agreement to pool resources, as a security transaction to prevent loneliness, as a hedge against old age alone.
Marriage in the church is something far different from what the world thinks it is. You start marriage pledging that you will be "true to each other in good times and bad, in sickness and health, to love and honor each other for all the days of your lives." Marriage is more than consenting to live together and share your lives. It is a consenting to be a reflection of God's love. It is a consenting to be a beacon of God's light to a world which seems steeped in darkness.
In this Sacrament of love, a love shared between three (bride, groom and God) we proclaim God's love for us and God enters into this Covenant in the form of His Son. It is only in this way that this bringing together of two people can have life, life through and in Christ. Without him in this covenant, it is no longer a covenant but just an agreement, a license. But with him, Oh what love can be shared by two.
It is important to understand the marriage vows as the Church does
· Sacred
· Permanent
· Indissoluable (that cannot be dissolved, broken up, lasting, durable)
Love is not so much a decision as it is an encounter with another. In my life, I found that to be true. I did not have so much love that I knew or chose to give it to Pat, my wife of 31 years. When I encountered Pat, it sprang from somewhere within. It grew from a model of an encounter that had occurred in the past and was on-going. It grew from an encounter with an all-loving God.
In "Deus Caritas Est (God is Love)", Pope Benedict says that being Christian is not the result of making an ethical choice or a lofty idea, but the result of an encounter with an event, a person, which gives life a new horizon and a decisive direction. As Pope Benedict says in the encyclical, “there is a relationship between love and the Divine; love promises infinity, eternity – a reality far greater and totally other than our everyday existence.”
Your brother in Christ,
Deacon Bruce
Your brother in Christ,
Deacon Bruce


